Are you really bi? Or is it a kind of gay for pay arrangement, for instance, have you ever had a boyfriend? – anonymous
On twitter, my cam shows, even in person, this is probably the most commonly asked question I am asked.
So lets get started.
“Are you really bi? Or is it a gay for pay arrangement?” Lets start off with this part of the question first, it’s really the only legitimate portion of the question. Once we’re done with this part of the question I’m going to tear into the whole boyfriend thing and rant for a bit.
Yes, I am really bi. I enjoy men and women sexually. I have sex with men, on and off camera, and I have sex with women, on and off camera. Do I have a preference? Not really, don’t be a jackass/cunt, be intelligent, have good hygiene. Really only 3 requirements, whether I fuck you or not is going to be based on my mood, and the other little things that make you that more attractive. I think when it comes down to the nitty gritty details of who you are and aren’t willing to fuck everyone varies, but we have those core requirements. I’ve got some girlfriends that only fuck black dudes, which I think is hilarious because they think that white dudes have little dicks and all black dudes have humongous cocks. If only they’d seen as much cock as me, they’d know that’s not really true 😀
I’ve got friends that are guys that will fuck anything that walks, literally, and then I’ve got friends that only fuck black guys, only fuck tall blonde guys, only fuck blonde girls, only fuck cheerleaders. Some people are super picky and prudish, some just like to fuck.
“Are you straight?” You won’t catch me saying that I’m straight. I’m not gay, but I’m definitely not straight.
Now, I’m not really down with the whole gay for pay thing either. I think it’s retarded that some guys do it, more because I know they’re pretty much lying to themselves. Yeah, you suck dick and get fucked in the ass, you’re totally straight. “I do it for the money”. A mechanic works on a car for the money, he doesn’t have to enjoy it, it still makes him a mechanic. If you do porn steady, and say you’re gay for pay, you’re at least a little bit bi, if not a closet case. Don’t mean to kick some of my homies in the balls there, but it’s how I see it. Not trying to force you guys into a box or change the way you think! Just my POV.
I’d have to say my favorite is the guys that won’t kiss or suck because “that’s gay”. Ummmmm, you either have another mans cock in your ass, or your cock is in another mans ass. I think you already crossed the “that’s gay” line.
Oh, and in case you’re wondering. I’ve definitely kicked someone in the balls for using “that’s gay” as a simile for “that sucks” “that’s shitty” and “anything describing something not good”.
Now for the rant!
“Or is it a kind of gay for pay arrangement, for instance, have you ever had a boyfriend?”
Are you fucking kidding me?! Since when did a relationship confirm whether you’re gay or straight?! What about the guys that marry women to hide the fact that they’re gay? They know in their hearts and in the deepest, darkest, recesses of their souls that they’re gay, yet they can’t come out and be who they want or need to be because it’s not completely socially acceptable, so he married a woman and had a family because it was politically correct and socially acceptable, and his church and family would only accept that as an option for his life! What about those people?! Based on your requirements they’re not gay because they’re stuck in some backwards ass life that holds no other possibilities for them.
Yeah, I also had awesome parents to show me how amazing relationships are and how you should put so much effort into them.
My problem isn’t with relationships with men, that’s not why I don’t date guys, I just don’t date!
I have been single for FOUR YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have no intention of being in a relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Relationships take up so much time and require so much emotional investment, I don’t want it. I like my carefree super bachelor lifestyle! I get to do what I want, when I want, and who I want! I’m not willing to change that. I do porn! I don’t want some extra strings attached!
Not that many people are willing to date a porn star. Sure it’d be cool for the first week, and then it’s time for them to work. You want them to lie to you all the time when they’re going to go do some scenes? How long until you’re sub conscious eats you alive with thoughts like “Third time he/she has gone to do laundry this week, and they’re gone all day. You know they’re getting the train run on them and having sex with other people. They’re probably better fucks than you are.”
Nobody needs that kind of self degrading crap in their mind, and shit like that is born from jealousy and a human beings natural tendency to bring themselves down. You are your own worst critic and, in some cases, worst friend.
Now, lets recap.
I am bisexual, not straight, not gay.
I am not gay 4 pay.
I am not in a relationship with a man or woman, nor do I have any intentions of being in a relationship with a man or a woman. The last relationship I was in was 4 years ago(19), prior to me being sexually active with men(22), and it was a horrible relationship!
Saying that you have to bottom to be gay or that you have to date guys or be willing to date guys to be gay is just as close minded as the people telling gay men and women that they can’t marry each other because the bible says so.
You have the anti-gay marriage people trying to tell the pro-gay marriage what the institution of marriage is. Who are they to decide? Just because they’re married and you’re not they know more about love or what it means to be married or what makes a good spouse?
There are close minded jackasses of ANY and EVERY sexual preference, regardless of SEX, RACE, ETHNICITY, RELIGION, POLITICAL AFFILIATION.
Don’t Be It! Keep an open mind! For all you know, someone may have the mindset you’ve been searching for this whole time. It really is about equality, for EVERYONE! Not just you.
Anyways, I’m sure I’m pissing off a good handful of people, but if I’m not irritating you just a bit, I’m not giving you any food for thought. For humans to truly co-exist there needs to be understanding and acceptance. You know, walk a mile in another persons shoes(or however that goes), that whole deal.
So do me a favor, open your mind. I promise you won’t regret it.
P.S. If you think I’m full of shit, educate yourself on sexual preference and sexual orientation.
The Pointmeister’s blog and thoughts on sexual preferences – http://pointmeister.blogspot.com/2009/09/sexual-preferences.html
Wikipedia – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_orientation
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