Happy Father’s Day everybody!
Well, I guess not “everybody” since I’ve got a couple female fans, but definitely Happy Father’s Day to all the Fathers out there!
Once again, I’ve got a bit of a problem with a holiday.
Now, I’m not saying this because I don’t like my dad or I think it’s a fake holiday or trumped up, or anything like that. My problem with Father’s Day is that it’s generally believed that Father’s Day is for paternal Father’s only. Or, men who have bred children with their semen. That you actually have to be literally fathering children to be a “Father figure”.
I think that’s wrong, for a few reasons.
Let’s jump into this whirlwind of controversy real quick, shall we?
First off, let me say that if you’re a gay man, and you have children from a previous relationship, I applaud you if you stayed in those children’s lives and have helped to raise them the best you can to be tolerant loving people.
My first problem, is when people say that unless they’re your children, coming from your seed, that they’re not your children and that you shouldn’t be celebrating Father’s Day. I find that these people tend to be the ones who walk around at public events and hand out flyers and asking me if I think I’m going to heaven or hell. Just because you read one book, doesn’t mean you know everything and that everyone else needs to think like you. Off topic tangent, my bad.
So, to all the single Father’s who have adopted, or Fathers’ who have adopted together and are sharing the wonderful experience of raising a child together, I applaud you! And to you as well, a Happy Father’s Day!
Even those of you who don’t have any paternal children, or adopted children of your own, if you’re an important influence in a child’s life who doesn’t have a father who is around, I applaud you as well. Happy Father’s Day!
The way I see it, Father’s Day has become a way to brag that you’ve contributed to an egg and made a human being. But as most of us know, being a father doesn’t just mean putting some nut on an egg, it’s much more than that. Fatherhood doesn’t just end with the cum shot.
Growing up, I had a real rocky relationship with my father. My mom moved us away as kids, so we rarely got to see him, and my step dad was such a piece of shit human being, he’s the only person to this day that if given the chance to beat the shit out of them I might go a bit too far. So, needless to say, I didn’t find my father figures in the home.
For me, it was the upstanding men that I met through different parts of my life. Mainly beginning with high school and one of my first jobs. There are two people that really stand out the most to me.
First would be my wrestling coach. All through high school, he was the only person outside of the home who knew what went on and how it effected me. If I had problems or questions about life, I went to him. I felt like he had my back, he cared about my well being. That was more than anyone at home had given me. Why I pick him as a father figure in my life is that he indirectly showed me what it means to be a man and a good human being. I knew how to take care of myself, but I wasn’t always that great at being respectful to people and having the most polite social skills. If you think I’m rough around the edges now, you should’ve been around me when I was 16. My coach is a paternal father now, but I know that every year he gets some young freshman on the team, he becomes a father figure to more fresh young minds. For his unforgettable contributions to not only my life, but others as well, I thank my coach and wish him a Happy Father’s Day!
The second person would be another person who taught me what it’s like to be not just a man, but a happy person. He was one of my co workers when I worked at a dental laboratory. In a time of my life when not many people had faith in me, including myself, he did. He inspired me and pushed me to become a better person than I am and to create a better life for myself than I was given. He amazed me with his own personal story of escaping Vietnam in his teens and coming to the US, only to educate himself not only in HS, but he got himself scholarships to be able to go to college and got himself a college education. He was a father when I met him, so he has had a few Father’s Days under his belt, but he more than deserves a day of appreciation. He’s an amazing person with only the best for everyone in his heart. For being the spark that lit the flame in my life, the least I can do is say thank you and wish him a Happy Father’s Day as well.
Basically what I’m saying is, sometimes being there for someone and wanting the best for them is being more of a father to them than busting a load in their mom. Kind of a brash and graphic way to put it, but it’s true.
So if anyone is feeling bummed out that they don’t have kids and that they don’t get to participate in Father’s Day, don’t. To someone, you are a father figure, you just may not know it ;D